all i want to do is live a PURE life pleasing to God
i guess this is kind of an awkward topic, but God urges us to bring everything to Him..because without Him, nothing is possible. im actually not even quite sure how to put this, so i'll just lay it out as the words come into my mind.
why is it so hard to keep a relationship sexually pure? my boyfriend and i have the most beautiful and happy relationship, but we struggle to fight sexual temptation. we have spoken about this and said that we have to stop and wait until we get married..and we managed to do so for a good few weeks..but sadly 'slipped up' again. we are both strong Christians and realize that what we're doing is so wrong..and there's really not a day that goes by that im not praying to God to give us the strength to resist the temptation. and so many times i experience conviction and the feelings of shame and guilt get so overwhelming that i flip out into severe moodswings. and even worse, most of the time i feel so alone and like a weak Christian..am i the only one screwing up with mistakes and failures? ofcourse i know the answer to this question is obviously 'no', but my sins are making me feel like i am the only one messing up
The best way to avoid
The best way to avoid temptation is to avoid the circumstance that lead to temptations. Temptation is common to man and you are not alone there.
When we are saved its our spirit that's saved, our spirit that was once dead to sins is born again in Christ, and our spirit is then sealed by the Holy Spirit so that it wont get corrupt again.
But our soul and body are still worldly and is prone to attack from the devil, and it will continue till we leave this world, but as we 'grow in Christ' we will be able to control our soul and body better, in other words our body and soul will start to follow our spirit than the world, its an ongoing process.
God has dealt with the sins of mankind through Jesus Christ, but if we continue to sin we are giving a foothold for the devil in our life, and he starts to steal kill and destroy.
1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (New International Version)
RejiMC (aka Blessed)
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You aren't alone in your
You aren't alone in your struggles. I dealt with similar issues in my walk with God in a relationship a few years ago in college. At first I felt like the worst sinner (if there is such a thing) then I just felt unclean. Conviction came in and random spurts of sinlessness followed by more sinning with the flesh. I was completely overcome by sexual impurity and immorality. What I can say to your situation that I learned in my own is that it's not something that's going to solve itself between the two of you if from what you say about you two discussing it is true. You need accountability first and foremost. Someone who knows your struggle who you can go to and likewise for him. And you also need to understand that it's not just a sin that you are committing to one another with one another but also to the Father God in heaven whom you desire to serve who desires nothing more than your purity and selfless service to Him. Pray for His help and motivation to stay pure so that you don't sin against Him or yourself through acts of sexual impurity. If it continues to be a struggle then you need to strength to understand that you and your boyfriend are both good Christian "individuals" but that as a couple you don't have a relationship that is honoring to God and something needs to change. Seek God's face and pray for strength and wisdom. He will see you through.